LIFESTYLE: HOW TO OVERCOME SHYNESS AROUND GIRLS

Some guys can just walk up to any girl and start talking. They can say whatever is on their mind and never once worry about what she might say or do. For other guys though, it’s the opposite. They worry about what a girl will think, or say or do. They worry they will embarrass themselves or feel as if under a heavy spotlight. These are the shy guys that find themselves tongue-tied around girls, or saying things that make no sense, or blurting out inappropriate words. Guys that are truly unhappy with how they are around girls. But, not to worry, here are ten good techniques on how to get over being shy around girls.
1 – Practice.

You hear it all the time. If you want to get better at something, or even get good at something, you need to practice. This is doubly true when it comes to being shy around girls. If you want to get over it, the best way to do so, is to be around and talk more with girls. Do it enough so that it becomes old news. Then, you’ll just sort of forget to be shy around them as you see that deep down, they are only human too.

2 – Be sincere.

If you are shy around girls, don’t be afraid of letting a girl see that. It’s no sin or crime to be shy, but it is a hindrance if you let being shy get in the way of meeting girls and getting to know them. In short, be yourself, as they always say. Be a shy guy if that’s what you are. But always remember, just because you are shy doesn’t mean you have to hide in your shell.

3 – Pick one thing.

One thing you can do if you’re really shy, is to pick one thing that you need to do. Just one thing. Then, go do it. It might be walking up to a girl you don’t know and introducing yourself. Or, it might be asking a girl to dance at a club. Whatever it is, pick one thing that you are going to do to help you get over your shyness, and then go do it. Over and over.

4 – Make up your mind.

One of the problems with being shy is a constant inner battle about what to do in certain situations. This isn’t good, because it causes inertia, which means you won’t ever get to where you want to be. So, what you need to do when you find yourself in a situation where you’re feeling awkward or weird, is just to think about all your options and make a decision. Just pick whatever sounds good. If it blows up in your face, it won’t be that bad. What will be bad is if you don’t make any choice and wind up standing there mute.

5 – Do other things that scare you.

The root cause of shyness is fear. Fear of what other people will think, say, or do. Therefore, to help you get over being shy, you need to loosen the grip of fear. To do this, start doing other things that scare you. Like jump off the high dive, or give a speech in front of a big crowd. Whatever it is that scares you, so long as it’s legal and won’t physically hurt you, give it a go. You’ll find that as your fear of other things lessons, so too does your shyness.

6 – Take chances.

Along with working on your general fear of things, is the idea of learning to take chances. The idea is to do some things that you aren’t sure beforehand how they are going to come about. As you do so, you’ll come to see that the world won’t end if some such thing doesn’t work out right, or if you get a little embarrassed now and then. Learning such things will help greatly in getting over being shy around girls.

7 – Get out of character.

Another thing you can do to help get over your shyness around girls, is to pretend you aren’t. It might sound ridiculous, but it works. Just pretend you are someone who is not nervous around girls when you find yourself around them and see if you aren’t able to be less shy.

8 – Make arrangements to be around her.

If all else fails, and you have a particular girl in mind that your shyness is keeping you from meeting, do something to arrange for the two of you to be together. If you’re in school, sing up for the same class, and then see if you can’t get on a project with her. If you’re at work, same thing, try to get on a project together where the two of you will be forced to interact. Eventually, being together, your shyness should lessen.

9 – Use your imagination.

Sometimes, it helps to overcome shyness if you picture scenarios in your head before being around a girl. This is something professional athletes do. They picture how the play is supposed to go before the ball is hiked. It helps to keep you focused on what it is you’re trying to achieve. So, picture her in your mind before speaking. Picture yourself talking to her. Picture whatever it is you want to transpire, then go make it happen that way.

10 – Just do it.

And finally, the whole kick in the pants approach. Sometimes, if you’re a guy, you just have to buck up and be a man. If you want something, and that something is a girl, or maybe just to be able to be around girls without sweating, just grit your teeth, get up, and get yourself over to where they are and start talking.
These ten good tips on how to get over being shy around girls is for all the shy guys out there who for one reason or another find themselves shy to the point of being bothered by it. If you are such an individual, I hope these tips help.

Good luck.